Your spouse should compliment you, not complete you.
“You… Complete me”
While that is such a romantic line from an incredible romantic movie…. It perpetuates the idea that your worth is based on someone else’s value of you. You don’t find your worth in another person. You find your worth within yourself and then find someone worthy of you.
Here’s the thing, if you’re not whole you shouldn’t be getting married, you should be spending time making yourself whole, so you have all of you to offer someone. Marriage isn’t 50/50, or 60/40. It’s a 100/100. If you’re looking to fill a void get a house plant, learn a craft, read self-improvement books, go to church, get a life coach…. Study yourself, learn who you are and be a full, valuable, worthy person that can offer a partnership to another that is equally complete… and from there… SOAR together.
“On a deeper level, you are already complete. When you realize that, there is playful, joyous energy behind what you do.” ~Eckhart Tolle