Your Spouse Should Compliment You, Not Complete You

“You… Complete me”

While that is such a romantic line from an incredible movie, it perpetuates the idea that your worth is based on someone else’s value of you. You don’t find your worth in another person. You find your worth within yourself and then find someone worthy of you.

Here’s the thing: if you’re not whole, you shouldn’t be getting married. You should spend time making yourself whole, so you have all of you to offer someone. Marriage isn’t 50/50 or 60/40—it’s 100/100.

If you’re looking to fill a void, get a house plant, learn a craft, read self-improvement books, go to church, or get a life coach. Study yourself, learn who you are, and be a full, valuable, worthy person who can offer a partnership to another equally complete person… and from there… SOAR together.

“On a deeper level, you are already complete. When you realize that, there is playful, joyous energy behind what you do.” ~Eckhart Tolle